It can be more than a little difficult when you are sitting in the pain and the hurt to see what is beyond the immediate moment. The pain is so big and so... just... THERE, that it is hard to even think about looking around it to see what else might be coming. These are the times that you shy away from the clichés, the quaint sayings, and the adorable signs that you see at craft shows. These are the times when even the thought smiling and trying something new seems so ludicrous that it's laughable. The times that scream "nothing is ever going to be the same" and "why bother?"
I know what that feels like. I lived in it for a long time. But I found a way out. And so can you.
I want you to take a second and imagine what life can be like when the pain has subsided. I didn't say when the pain is gone... let's be realistic, shall we? But it can die down a bit and recede into the background of life. It can become part of the landscape rather than the focal point. And it doesn't have to beat you.
Take a second a imagine what your life could be if that happened. What would change?
Would you sleep better? Maybe sleep less? Would your energy bounce back?
Would you see friends again? Make new friends? Be ok without old friends?
Would you try new things? Resurrect old hobbies? Take a risk? Settle into comfort?
Would you take better care of yourself? Of others?
Would you express yourself through art? Through physical exercise? Through your professional life?
Would you get up and move? Or would you finally sit still?
Pain and grief affect people differently so the absence of them will also create different effects. What does freedom look like to you? What does it feel like? Because that is what we're talking about... FREEDOM.
What does being free from the pain and the hurt that follows you around and that has you under its constant scrutiny sound like to you? Is it terrifying? Exciting? Does it sound like a fairy tale? Yes Virginia, freedom from pain does exist. And the best news? Everything you need is inside of you. You just need to bring it to the surface.
Imagine your perfect day, free from pain and worry. Hold on to that image. Keep it close to your heart. Now take a deep breath.
You are one step closer to getting there.
Welcome to the journey.